Hey,
Today the kids and I went shopping again 🙂 I love being able to take them out and shopping with them. Three little ones like that draw a lot of attention and the two most common things I hear are, “Are they triplets?” and “They are so well behaved.” I tell people that it takes a lot of work at home to be able to take them out in public. I’ve even told some that we spank them if they need it. It makes me think of what you have told us before. If we will just be who Jesus has made us, we will shine. Being normal will make us shine. It’s amazing how most people (around here anyway) don’t think that having well behaved children is normal anymore.
There was a young man who was working as a cashier at one of the stores the other week that really stood out to me. He seemed sincere in wanting to know how to have well behaved kids. He looked me in the eyes and said that he wished he could take his kids out in public. I felt really sad for him. I told him that it takes a lot of work at home, and they have to know that you mean what you say. I also told him that I pray a lot and get help.
I had to go back to that store today to return something, and I was hoping to run into him. He was there and he remembered us. He talked to the kids some. I was prepared to give him a business card this time. He got busy helping someone else and it turned out that the lady working with him was the one who wanted to know my “secret” this time. I handed her a pastorjohnshouse.com card. I told her that was my secret and if she visited the website she could get help. She tucked it in her smock and said she would do that.
When I left, I felt a little disappointed that I didn’t get to mention spanking to either of them, because that is really what is lacking in most homes today. There is a big pressure to be “nice” and spanking is seen as being mean and impatient. I wanted them to know that those well behaved children are the results of us being “mean” enough to spank them. 🙂
I had another stop to make at the post office, and we all filed out of the car 🙂 (I really do enjoy going out with them!) As we were walking in, I was still feeling like I had missed something at the store, and the Lord said, “It is better to obey God than men.” That broke that feeling that I had. I was pointing them to my help, and I wasn’t trying to be anyone’s hero 🙂 . If they get in touch with Jesus, they can overcome the same spirits that are around us all. Including those that would make you feel mean for doing what is godly. I was feeling this “pressure” to tell them about spanking, but what Jesus did was enough. Jesus knows my heart and that I still want to outright tell them that spanking is good if done correctly, but I’m trusting him about all of that.
I was wondering if there was anything on the website to encourage people who are looking for help in parenting? I’m thankful to have the family that we do. A couple of weeks ago, Token said that as parents, we can’t catch it all and that we need each other. She also said that God has set it up that way. I love that. It’s a relief! 🙂 I’m just wondering about other children of God, who are looking for help. I only heard bits and pieces of some testimonies on the beach Thursday morning, but it was the relief that I was looking for. And watching your gentleness with Daniel’s fear of the ocean was wonderful for me. We don’t want to be too far one way or the other, and I need the ones who have been there before me to show me what is good. I’m thankful for my family. 🙂 I want to live and let my children live 🙂
Love you,
Cris
P.S. In no way do I feel that my children are “saints”….at least not yet anyway! 🙂 And even then they will still need correction! And I would very much appreciate your prayers that the praise that men may give me now for having “good” children doesn’t puff me up. We are just being normal! We have plenty of times when they are not so “good”, and I want to remember that it is all working together for good if we love God.
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Hi Cris.
Rearing children is indeed a community project! I am thankful for the sweet, godly community that we have. The fellowship we share in Christ serves children well, as parents take advantage of the wisdom and love in this body of Christ for all these wonderful kids.
Keep up the good work!
Pastor John